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BROJO - Confidence and Integrity for Men!
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The BROJO is a philosophical community that supports men to act with integrity, create deep social connections, build massive self confidence and live meaningful lives.
Our videos cover a range of practical advice and philosophical guidance on everything from healthy psychological practices to social skills and techniques to entrepreneurship strategies.
We value empirical scientific research, Stoicism, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), vipassana, humanism and above all honesty.
We welcome your feedback, questions, stories and ideas. Contact our founders Dan (dan@brojo.org) and Mike (mike@brojo.org) any time
Our videos cover a range of practical advice and philosophical guidance on everything from healthy psychological practices to social skills and techniques to entrepreneurship strategies.
We value empirical scientific research, Stoicism, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), vipassana, humanism and above all honesty.
We welcome your feedback, questions, stories and ideas. Contact our founders Dan (dan@brojo.org) and Mike (mike@brojo.org) any time
Nice People Are Secretly Judgmental
This is an excerpt from my course: Nice Guy Recovery & Social Confidence Building
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This video discusses the limiting belief that "nice people are non-judgmental", highlighting how this belief leads to overlooking how judgmental Nice Guys are about others and themselves.
Judgments are often based on small, unreliable pieces of data that are mistaken as evidence, and these judgments are converted into life-limiting inaccurate social risk assessments.
Everyone is judgmental due to evolution and programming, which can be harmful in relationships and self-perception. Let's talk about reducing the reaction to your judgments, such as offering uns...
www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/classroom
This video discusses the limiting belief that "nice people are non-judgmental", highlighting how this belief leads to overlooking how judgmental Nice Guys are about others and themselves.
Judgments are often based on small, unreliable pieces of data that are mistaken as evidence, and these judgments are converted into life-limiting inaccurate social risk assessments.
Everyone is judgmental due to evolution and programming, which can be harmful in relationships and self-perception. Let's talk about reducing the reaction to your judgments, such as offering uns...
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Neurodivergent Love: Psychopath (ASPD) x Borderline (BPD) Relationship - Teagan’s story
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I've got a new podcast for you that's here by popular demand. The last podcast I did was with the honest psychopath Jackson Noble, and I got a lot of inquiries about his partner Teagan. People wanted to know what it was like for her to be with an open psychopath, to be in a loving relationship with him, to observe him as a father and a partner, and to know if it's possible to have a healthy and...
The Psychopathic Philosophy: The Naturally Confident Worldview
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This is an excerpt from my course: Psychopathic Confidence: www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/classroom Let's put aside media-driven prejudices for a moment to investigate the concept of "healthy psychopathy." Walking among us are millions of psychopaths who do not go to prison or become serial killers, and instead are generally highly successful and confident in themselves. They see ...
The Brotherhood: The Ultimate Masculinity Program for Nice Guys & People Pleasers
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Contact dan@brojo.org for more information Or visit Brojo on Skool: www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491 Thank you for showing an interest in the nice guy brotherhood, a group coaching community program for nice guys and people pleasers who want to become more confident and assertive to do better in their relationships and their careers. This is also for any man who wants to become more ...
Nice Guy Caretaking: When Being Helpful Becomes Toxic
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In this video we address the concept of caretaking, highlighting how unsolicited help can be harmful and self-serving. We will outlines criteria for healthy help: obtaining permission, enabling self-help, prioritizing the other person's success, and ensuring one's own well-being. Conversely, we'll tackle how caretaking involves controlling others under the guise of kindness, often driven by per...
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If following through on a decision feels too scary, make it smaller - reduce the size of the task until you can take action
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Always be measuring the balance of investment - if you’re giving more than the other person, set boundaries and/or walk away
Arent we all judgemental in our mind, constantly? The difference is wether we take an action or not bout it
Agreed, I think we are all judgmental, and how harmful we are depends on how much we manage our reaction to our judgments. This video is aimed at the nice guys who have convinced themselves they're not judgmental
I truly believe a regular Joe like us is brain hardwired as "problem solver". So it's automatically we think "they need our help". It's in our DNA as a male mamal to protect and take care our female counterparts. But the modern feminist movement doesn't appreciate "nice behaviour" because they see men as oppressor and patriarchy. Especially in the dating world.
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4 years is nothing. I dont do sex for more than 10 years, i guess is 11 / 12 years, I just stop counting :D what I feel after this time? Depressed. LIfe sucks.
Are you interested in changing that situation, or have you completely given up?
@@brojoDan about find some partner, yes probably. But i dont give up myself, Im doing exercice to build muscles 💪 Doing meditation, reading books, watching videos about self improvements. Im trying to be my best self!
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It can be helpful to ask reliable friends, what do you see me doing to sabotage myself?
Bruv...... bruv..... 1986 model here.... I'm starting to think this particular pickle is multidimentional considering how many of us are trying to chow it down.
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You mean psychopaths like the so called Elite families who own and destroy this world? yeah I hear ya!
And what kind of person would be needed to stand up to such families?
For me, it's just a matter of surrounding yourself with the people you really like. I only have two real friends that I'm on the same page with. Funny thing is, we have very few similar interests, different profession and sometimes, we have very contradictory opinions but we never ever get tired of each other because we can talk about anything and never get bored. I never tried to "blend in" with groups or coworkers if I feel that I'm not in their zone. In events, I even prefer sitting alone than doing small talks or socialing with people I don't find interesting. Other people may think they have the most interesting personality but not all people will like them and can still find them boring. On the other hand, other people think they are a walking snoozefest but other people may still have interest with them. Just a matter of preference, that's all. What you think that's interesting may not be interesting for others and what you think that's boring may not be boring others.
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The only people I know who think honesty is radical are the ones who have never really tried it
I agree
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I agree. But what if my partner told me about his past? And also eventually cheated on me
Unfortunately it sounds like you have somehow chosen a bad partner, which is probably a reflex from subconscious patterns. Your jealousy in this situation is probably telling you there's something dangerous about him
Well said man. Good lesson. Thanks
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Ask yourself, which would create a worse outcome: failing to change their mind about me, or desperately trying to defend myself?
Does a psychopath have narcisstic disorder too? And vise versa?
There are 2 main disorders associated with psychopathy: Anti Social Personality Disorder (ASPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Someone can be diagnosed with both. The difference when someone also has NPD is they might be prone to episodes of depression, they might care a lot what other people think of them, and they might be more interested in being centre of attention
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Treat conversations like a tennis match - once you've hit the ball over, the game only continues when they've hit it back. If you're waiting, go play with someone else
Good video but incels hating women is not the same as feminists hating men. Feminism has fundamentally always been about equal rights, not man bashing. I know a lot of feminists and none hate men.
So I’m not a psychopath unless I’m one who does feel anxiety 🤣
Yeah probably not a full blown one, but this test will help you figure it out openpsychometrics.org/tests/LSRP.php
WoW you just called me a psychopath with a multiple personality disorder 🤣 Now on a serious level, the was the most profound thing I’ve heard for a long time if ever👌🏼 Dan is the Man he knows how you can……👏🏻🤙🏻 I need to commit, and develop my discipline which will begin and sustain momentum ✌🏻🫶🏻
Thanks mate! Come join Brojo and I'll give you free access to my Discipline course when you're in there (message me once you're in) www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491
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This guy is not a psychopath. He has a very fragile ego, and, as such, he is probably just another malignant narcissist.
He doesn't strike me as having a fragile ego - indeed, he seems to feed off negative feedback and use it to his advantage
My existential ocd is that I don’t have free wil, with scares me. Haha but perhaps this is strangely helping.
Once I accepted that free will doesn't exist, I found it quite peaceful. It was clinging to free will that scared me
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As Daniel Kahnemann noted, humans are bad at statistical thinking. If you stop and "do the numbers", you get a clearer picture of what's worth doing and what's worth quitting
I get your point but people's problem is that they just cannot answer the question you ask in the end: "what can you do right now, that gives your live purpose?" I just don't know. So how to find out?
Here's a deeper more intensive piece on this mate, hope it helps theinspirationallifestyle.com/podcast/how-to-give-your-life-meaning-and-sense-of-purpose/
Thanks for the video, Dan. A lot of this stems with people wanting to avoid their own anxiety and also have an identity as a “good person” (oftentimes, it’s exactly the anxiety around not being a good person than drives the behavior) It’s that fucking toxic shame of not being good enough as you are that needs to be uprooted. Currently my journey.
Wow, this just hit hard today. I’m married and feel alone - I’ve been in recovery for over 18 mos now and the one thing I’ve discovered is that I am willing to go to any lengths to heal and it includes being alone on my own. Thank you for the encouragement. ❤
Glad to hear it helped buddy, get in touch if there's more I can do dan@brojo.org
Dan, you made this video after meeting my mother, right? 😊
Ah so that's who it was ;
😂 @@brojoDan
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I had a good childhood and had wonderful parents. Sometimes being a nice guy is just because you know that if you speak your mind in front of your wife, the marriage is over, or at least she's going to make your life such a hell to teach you to never cross her again.
Thanks for your patience with my response. I've read your other comments too. I can see you're pretty dead set on placing the blame on women. At Brojo, we are all about personal responsibility, and we believe that you only have toxic people in your life if you find them and allow them in. We also believe there are healthy women who treat men well in relationships, who become available once a man is confident and integral enough to find and attract them. If you wish to maintain the idea that it's all women's fault, I suggest you seek out Red Pill or MGTOW content instead of mine, you'll find it more aligned to your view on male/female dynamics.
@@brojoDan I'm 56 and aside from some female friends, I have yet to find a woman I'd describe as healthy, so I can only choose from those that will go out with me. As far as maintaining that it's all women's fault, I'm sorry but there are so many examples I could give where, yes, it is their fault. I'm sure if it's examined, I'd have to share some of the blame but if your child throws a ball in the house after you've told them not to and even taken it away from them a few times, and they eventually play with it and break something fragile, is it your fault for having something in the house that's breakable?
"Aside from some female friends" - so there are exceptions? Maybe there are more exceptions you're yet to meet... theinspirationallifestyle.com/why-red-pillers-shouldnt-give-up-on-women/
@@brojoDan Yes, there are plenty of women who don't seem incredibly bat crap crazy but those never go further than being friends. There's no romantic attraction on their part but they like me as a nice person.
what lol. that is such a “nice guy” response. always talking some shit about women. please get help
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One of the most important questions I ever asked myself was, "How could I make the most of my life if no one else liked me?"
I think different. I move different. I feel different. I cant relate to other people and in fact I hate being arround anyone. But my work forces me to do otherwise. I think you are right. I just cant figure out how to change that.
It's possible that you're experiencing the "cluster effect bias" (a term I made up) that leads you to unconsciously surround yourself with the same bad-fit people over and over again. Get in touch if you want help breaking the pattern dan@brojo.org
what about feeling trapped by parents like you cant be yourself
Yeah I did a post about that here ruclips.net/video/BVdN9pRLfR0/видео.html hope it helps
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Ask yourself, What fictional stories have I added to innocent/neutral evidence?
I'm dishonest, tired of being a nice guy. Watching your Udemy course. Thank you, Dan. Very enlightening
No worries! Hope it helps. Get in touch if there's more I can do to help dan@brojo.org
I'm not sure that "afraid" is the right word. I've never been afraid of a woman, but I have looked at what could happen, and that's the fact that the majority of divorces are initiated by women. People make fun of the saying "happy wife, happy life" (usually said by comedian Jeff Allen) but the one you need to look out for is something said by Jeff Foxworthy "if she ain't happy, you ain't happy, and if she ain't happy long enough, you ain't gonna be happy with half your stuff". So a lot of us already know that if we piss her off enough, she will have no problem filing, usually taking the house, the kids, and destroying your life. So we're not afraid of a woman, we just know that if she gets mad enough, we're at best seeing our kids on weekends. While you mentioned men don't need to be afraid of women physically, you even mentioned unless she's a MMA fighter, I disagree. Women have learned that they are free to hit a man as much as she wants and he's powerless to even defend himself. Most men already know that even if she is the one hitting you, you can't call 911 because as soon as the cops show up, it doesn't matter that you're the one with the black eye, you're the one going to jail because society doesn't accept the idea that the woman can be the violent one and the man is the victim. So to go back to the idea of why a man would sleep on the couch, do you think that by him insisting on sleeping in his own bed is going to end well? Even without greater consequences, she's not letting him sleep that night. And most women are strong willed enough that she'll gladly give up sleeping just to ensure that he doesn't sleep.
I mean, I would not marry a prostitute, would you?
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A fun tip to learn this: write nice notes for strangers, go hand them the note, then walk away before they can even react
Thanks mate, definitely have given me some perspectives to reflect on as eye continue on 🙏🏾
You're welcome mate, get in touch if there's anything more I can help with dan@brojo.org